On the day of departure of a loved one

In the recent passing of my grandma, I understand why it is so important to have your estate planning done well in advance.

At the time of her passing, there are many questions that cannot be answered unless the she has made known her intention well in advance. And do so clearly. Because the scene after a loved one has passed on is a chaotic and emotional one. Children are rushing in from all over to see their aged mother for one last time. With so many relatives and children suddenly gathering together, there are indeed many voices and many opinions. No one can have the final say, except perhaps the eldest child or the most respected elders. Questions like "does she want to be cremated or buried" or "what does she want to do with her belongings" or "how does she want her final farewell to be like" are very tiring questions to address to, worse if there are more than one person claiming to know her true wishes. Thankfully, my grandma's passing is peaceful and peaceable, but the stress of making final arrangements really is a chore and a source of stress for her children who just want a quiet final moment with their mother.